I made a promise to myself, and to you, that I would be completely and totally authentic concerning all things Creating Kimmie. It’s not something that comes naturally. Quite the opposite. It’s human nature to safeguard ourselves under the easiest of circumstances, much less during a pandemic.
Our hearts as well as our pain.
We shroud our vulnerability behind invisible walls and adding proverbial bricks daily. So, here I am,
hammering through that barrier, ready to wade through the deep end. And once again, I’m dragging you along.
Let’s talk about processing in terms of self-care. I’m a firm believer in finding one’s processing method, which will vary depending on a few factors. Anger or fear might call for physical processing such as exercising or dancing it out. While anxiety or unrest could benefit from coloring or journaling. Even crying, the list goes on. All processing methods serve simultaneously as forms of self-care.
The goal remains the same.
GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD.
Even if only for a short time. It’s imperative to break the cycle. The chain of compulsive thinking, which wreaks havoc on our ability to process.
TIP: Processing doesn’t always mean understanding. No matter how badly we want to, it’s just not always the key. It’s actually simpler than that. It’s about getting to a place where you can move, and not always forward. Sometimes it’s about moving sideways, diagonally, with purpose.
It’s about getting to a place where you can say, “Hey, this isn’t working for me” or “this is harmful to my well-being”.
Instead, whatever trigger that flipped the anxiety switch leaves us on the hamster wheel, snowballing into a panic attack or anxiety-riddled depression where nothing makes sense. Rendering us a puddle of confusion.
* Hear me now when I say this – self-care does not have to be complicated or overwhelming.
Simplify your self-care toolbox. Makes those tools easily accessible. Make lists and posts them in visible spots like doors, mirrors, the refrigerator, and car visors. Hell, I’ve been known to use my arm as a notepad once or a hundred times.
Another essential we use in my house is a handy-dandy supply bin. My tote holds writing supplies, books, kindle, journals, and old cards and letters from friends and family. The people who see the good in me when I can’t. My daughter’s bin is filled with coloring books, embroidery, intricate puzzles, nail polish, and lotions. Anything that she might need within arm’s reach to process and self-care.
Again, get out of her head and take a step.
Here’s a LIST of TIPS to get you started!
· Get out of your head
· Post lists/affirmations in well-occupied spaces
· Supply bins
· Hygiene products easily accessible
· Exercise, dance, take a walk (especially during a pandemic)
· Start your toolbox NOW. Don’t wait until you’re in crisis.
In conclusion, preparation and processing are key components of self-care. They are also the first steps toward a healthy and successful journey over the hurdle of your current or ongoing struggles.
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Be safe and always know we are here for you.
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